I seriously couldn’t tell you how many times I’ve failed or gotten rejected or turned away from something (or somebody) and felt like a complete and total loser.
I stumbled upon this video of Oprah talking about how “there are no mistakes” and she described EXACTLY how I feel right now. I think you should definitely watch if you want to know what I’m talking about.
She makes so many good points in this video, but one of her best messages is when she talks about what she’d say to a younger version of herself. She’d tell herself to relax and that everything is going to be okay. Do you know how often I sit down and ask myself, “Am I going to be okay?” When I barely have enough money to pay my bills, when I’m having problems with friends or family, when I’m heartbroken, when I don’t do well on a test, etc. I often find myself in these predicaments where I’m thinking about all the things that I want to be going right but they just so happen to be going oh so wrong. You picture exactly how you want your ducks to be in a row, but you keep getting thrown off your course. She says in the video that failure is just that “thing”. It’s that thing that throws you off balance but inevitably just forces you to make a change and get back on the path that’s meant for you.
A friend told me recently that I’m going to keep making the same mistakes over and over again until I learn my lesson, and it’s true. I’m going to keep messing up and failing until I finally get it through my thick head that the decisions I’m making aren’t aligned with my true path. I complain when things aren’t going my way but at the same time, I make decisions that aren’t getting me to where I’m meant to be going.
Sometimes, you get let go from that job. That person rejects you. Your friend turns their back on you at your worst hour. You’re struggling to make ends meet. You keep getting pulled into bad habits and temptations that inevitably make your life harder than they do easier. You fail that class. You realize that you hate your major and that you have no idea what you want to do with your life. All you can do is sit back and think about what your next best move is. Why am I in this position, and what’s the next best move to solving it? Take it one baby step at a time, and then the next baby step, and then the next and the next. Sooner or later, you’ll look back and wish you told yourself to relax. Everything is going to be okay.